a new way of thinking

Why are we mum's so hard on ourselves sometimes? Why does it feel like as soon as this new little person enters our world that we are suddenly expected to be perfect and know everything? When will we learn to accept that we are flawed and will mistakes in our parenting, possibly daily? This is something that has been sitting heavily on me lately and I don't claim to have found the answer yet, but I know that if I don't get this thing figured out then the rest of my life as a parent will not be as enjoyable as it should be. So, today's post about what we're trying is about trying to eradicate the always-lurking mummy guilts. Below is a photo of my amazingly beautiful, wildly funny, and perfectly imperfect daughter. Some days with her are fabulous (like yesterday), others are extremely exhausting and challenging (like the day before). After a hard day, I am often bombarded with guilt; for not always reacting to her the way I should, or I blame myself for doing something personally wrong to cause her to behave poorly. I know in my heart that it is not my fault, and I am now on a serious journey of learning to not give in to the guilts and get myself down about my perceived failure as a parent (and person). My goal is to be able to hold my head up after a challenging day and say "I did my best, I'm not perfect, neither is my child. We had a bad day, but tomorrow we get to start over." It sounds like a cliche, but I want to get this dealt with.

So, what we're trying this week is this: to take each moment for what it is - and enjoy it, to give myself room to make mistakes in my parenting, without it being a personal failure, and to fight for an environment of peace, harmony and unconditional love in my home - for everyone, INCLUDING MYSELF! I'll let you know next Monday how we're going!

Happy Monday everyone.

Love,

H. xx